Everyone is so hot. Aren’t they? How can all the rest of you not be hot for both men and women? Honestly, that is what I was thinking the whole time I grew up. I could not figure out how people weren’t feeling the strong sexual attraction that I was feeling for both genders. Wasn’t it just normal? I mean, look around people…everyone is so sexy!
I freaking love RuPaul. I love him as him and I love him as her. He makes me happy, just knowing that he exists. I have watched all the seasons of Drag Race…I can’t get enough.
It isn't restricted to just drag queens, though. My love for sexy glam runs all directions. Being a teen of the 80’s, I was so hot for straight boys in make up. Remember this? Or if you are too young to remember, you have seen the pictures, right? Every 80’s band had straight boys wearing makeup. I soooo loved it. I felt like “Finally! Boys are getting it! They get how fun it is to be glamorous and now we can all put make up and costumes on each other, yay!” The fad didn't really last very long though, dang it. But I was really impressed that these straight dudes were getting into it for awhile. It was just a fashion thing but, oh boy did it make me hot.
The entire cast of Hedwig and the Angry Inch (we’ve even got drag KING action in this one!)
I get mixed results when I discuss my love of sexy glam with others. Some men and women, both straight and gay, lighten up when I talk about it and the look on their face tells me they are "like me" that way...they like the bizarre sexual buzz surrounding this topic. They like the look and they get the freaky part. Or they just "get it" on some artistic level and enjoy it a lot.
Others think it is not sexy at all, not intriguing, not fun and just plain gross. Some straight women have said to me that anything that makes a man look gay in the least is a turn off for them. Some have said they can enjoy a little guy-liner but anything more than that is gross.
Gay people don't necessarily find sexy glam a turn on, either. I get varying answers from gay men and women on whether they get hot for it...some do, many don't. Many gay men (who aren't into glam or drag) actually mock cross dressers and drag queens, like it is insulting to try to "look like a woman" since you are supposed to be a man into men.
Also, I have one trans woman friend (hi sweetie!) (and yes I have only one trans friend...I wish I had more! I feel lame only having one...) who does not think glam and drag are sexy, and she feels they are mocking women and femininity. (I have gone around and around with her about this...with me saying "girl, you sayin' you don't think RuPaul is hot???" and her saying "oh lord no, how ghastly").
And then drag queens themselves report that it usually isn't a sexual thing for them. For some it is but most are doing it for reasons other sexuality. They are either performing and acting artistically or they are adopting a persona for various other reasons, or it is just a form of self-expression. I read an interview with RuPaul in the 9/26/13 issue of Rolling Stone. They quoted him as saying "I've had sex, I've enjoyed sex, it's not that important to me". Somehow it doesn't surprise me that he just isn't that sexual. He makes others respond to him in a sexual way, but that is just a byproduct of him authentically expressing himself. Some of us are sexy but not that sexual, they are not always intertwined.
As Ru says, "You're born naked, and the rest is drag."